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Hi.

When I became a mom, I searched for a blog that resonated with every part of me: the nerdy kid, the ansty teenage feminist, the wayward 20-something, the ambitious career woman, the writer, the traveler, the wife, and yes, the mother. I couldn’t find that blog, so I wrote it. Welcome.

Gray skies are gonna clear up

Gray skies are gonna clear up

Working to remind myself that my mind is like the sky--always blue behind the clouds. Fears and distractions roll through, sometimes so many at a time that they fill my whole field of vision. 

In these moments I try to breathe and remember that clarity hasn’t disappeared; it’s still right there trying to peek through.

One of my favorite facts is that an emotion only lasts 90 seconds on average. I’m talking about the physiological response to something that causes adrenaline, heat in the face, tightness in the throat, etc.

It’s the feeling that sticks around--the subjective reaction to the emotion caused by your brain interpreting the emotion and assigning a story to it.

Emotions play out in the theater of your body. Feelings play out in the theater for of your mind.

You can’t control the emotion, but you can control the feeling and how long you let it stick around.

The single biggest thing that has helped me with this is meditation, where the entire goal is to acknowledge the thoughts and feelings that arise, and then let them go.

Feel, let it go. Feel, let it go. Again. Again.

The blue sky is always there.

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