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Hi.

When I became a mom, I searched for a blog that resonated with every part of me: the nerdy kid, the ansty teenage feminist, the wayward 20-something, the ambitious career woman, the writer, the traveler, the wife, and yes, the mother. I couldn’t find that blog, so I wrote it. Welcome.

The best parenting advice I've ever gotten

The best parenting advice I've ever gotten

The best parenting advice I’ve ever gotten is that marriage comes before parenting. That our marriage must be happy and whole for our child to be likewise.

The friend who told us this also said, “As much as you want to, never hug your kids first when you walk into a room. You walk straight over to each other and give each other that first hug or kiss so they know who is the priority.”

At first this sounded harsh to me, but now I get it. It’s a way for our son to see that everything doesn’t revolve around him. For him to realize that a happy marriage means a happy family, and so one must precede the other. All of which is ultimately good for him. It’s a lesson I’m happy for him to learn for his own future relationships.

This is also why we take adults-only vacations. We need that time to shore up “us”. To laugh and play together and fill up our collective tank so that we can bring some of that love back home to our son.

So no, I don’t feel guilty leaving my baby behind. He needs us to take this vacation just as much as we do.

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